1. I can name each of my teen’s top three strengths without hesitation.

2. We hold weekly family meetings that every member looks forward to.

3. I regularly invite my teen to co-create solutions rather than imposing rules.

4. Our family has clear, written values that guide daily decisions.

5. I can calmly coach my teen through a mistake without lecturing.

6. We celebrate small wins together at least once a week.

7. I know how to adjust my communication style to match my teen’s personality.

8. Our home has predictable routines that reduce daily power struggles.

9. I actively seek feedback from my teen on how I’m doing as a parent.

10. We have a shared family vision board or document that everyone helped create.

11. I can list specific growth moments my teen has had in the last month.

12. We use “I” statements instead of blame during conflict.

13. I give my teen real responsibilities that matter to the household.

14. We debrief both successes and failures together to extract lessons.

15. I know my teen’s love language and use it intentionally.

16. Our family practices a weekly “digital sabbath” with no screens.

17. I can recognize when my teen is entering stress mode and regulate with them.

18. We have a simple ritual that signals the start of family time each evening.

19. I allow my teen to experience natural consequences instead of rescuing every time.

20. Our family sets quarterly goals together and tracks them visibly.

21. I can articulate the long-term character traits I want my teen to develop.

22. We laugh together daily—humor is part of our culture.

23. I regularly model apologizing and repairing when I mess up as a parent.

24. My teen has a voice in choosing the consequences for broken agreements.

25. We schedule one-on-one “special time” between parent and teen every week.